ART OF DISAGREEMENT

Today, the art of disagreement is dying.

People increasingly adopt an "either my way or the highway" mindset, leaving no room for a third option. There is a very thin line between bossing and leadership—bosses dictate; leaders influence.

A firm yes or no to any suggestion, advice, or opinion should come from deep knowledge and conviction, not from blind adherence to ancestral beliefs or traditions.

The third option is to agree to disagree.

This means that when two or more people recognize they hold different and irreconcilable views, they choose to stop arguing—acknowledging that neither side will change their mind. It is a decision to respect opposing viewpoints and end the discussion in order to preserve a positive relationship, rather than engaging in a fruitless debate.

The art of disagreement involves communication skills that allow individuals to discuss differing viewpoints constructively and respectfully. It fosters understanding and strengthens relationships rather than damaging them. Key practices include:

·        Active listening

·        Expressing opinions with kindness and respect

·        Understanding the root of disagreements

·        Focusing on collaboration rather than conflict

This approach helps maintain connection in an increasingly polarized world, turning disagreements into opportunities for growth and mutual learning.

Some may label this approach as political or diplomatic, but in reality, it is the only effective way to engage in peaceful discussions and civil negotiations. It is essential for reaching agreements and resolving disputes in a civilized society.

 

A diplomatic approach involves resolving conflicts and managing relationships through peaceful communication, negotiation, and compromise—not through force or coercion. It emphasizes:

·        Maintaining cordial relationships

·        Demonstrating tact and mutual respect

·        Practicing awareness and emotional intelligence

·        Cooperating effectively to find common ground

Faith and beliefs are personal.

Imposing them on others can lead to misunderstanding, conflict, and even the breakdown of relationships. It is vital to remember that belief systems are individual, and forcing them on others violates their autonomy.

Nature has endowed each of us with a divine intellect, and it is up to every individual to use that intellect according to their own capacity. I would never force even my children to accept my beliefs as absolute. Instead, I would encourage them to question everything, to reason, and to think critically.

Critical thinking is an intellectual virtue.

It involves character traits such as open-mindedness, intellectual humility, and fairness—traits essential for sound judgment and understanding. While it does include cognitive skills, its real strength lies in the motivated and principled application of those skills. This leads to better decisions and deeper insight, allowing us to navigate life with clarity and integrity.

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